Questions are an important part of any meaningful conversation, especially when it comes to the first date. If you are not asking any, and just trying to impress the girl by talking about yourself, then it's not good. On the other hand, if you start asking simple questions like a machine gun
- Where are you from?
- What is your job?
- Do you work out?
- Is this food tasty?
- Why are you here?
then it's not better either. In both cases, the chances are that the energy level will go below zero, and the first date will become also the last one.
So what is the better way?
The better way is to carry on the conversation by adding value and opening yourself up. For example:
- You: Do you like Fantasy movies?
- Her: Sometimes
- You: I recently watched XYZ and the ABC was really cool. Have you seen that?
- Her: Yes, but I was disappointed by the end.
- You: ...
This way, the conversation becomes more balanced rather than being a monologue or question-answer smash.
Wait, but how can you start doing that? There is a simple way, that works really well.
- Write down various conversation patterns
- Practice them loud and memorize them
I got it, this sounds really weird. But you can close yourself in the room alone, and practice this just for 15 minutes without anyone knowing about it.
You will find that this will boost your confidence (which is a great attraction trigger) and that you will be able to find out more complex and interesting points to say. It's like preparing for a job interview, except now your goal is to keep the date going on.
And now it's your turn to do the homework and then test it out in real.